Gatts
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Post by Gatts on May 30, 2014 3:22:12 GMT
Alright, I don't know if there are any other trans guys on here yet but hi. Let's chat? I'll talk to anyone, actually. I wanted to talk about being a trans male but not particularly fitting into an extremely masculine mold (like mainstream trans guys, I guess? I don't know). I still like (what is mostly considered to be, for all intents and purposes) feminine things, like wearing makeup and going for pedicures and such, as a guy.
Is that weird? I've always thought of myself as male but doing feminine things never bothered me and I actually like them. I'm actually kind of afraid of getting hate for it. Haha.
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Post by Victor on May 30, 2014 5:09:08 GMT
Hey! Welcome to the forum! Don't worry mate, anyone can be particularly feminine or masculine for thier gender, or have interests that are unrelated to their identity or presentation! As an sort of neutral trans man, I can't exactly say I feel you when you say you enjoy girly stuff, but I know exactly what you mean about not nessisarily wanting to play into the whole macho deal. Well, I could go on, (and I do) but what it really comes down to is "Be yourself." :3 Feminine men are a completely real thing, and you should feel good knowing that you're not cutting off what makes you happy in a mad scramble to pass. Cis men make that mistake too, but we know better, eh?  We're "blessed" with a unique perspective on gender that cis people can only ponder. I'll go ahead and register too! |
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Victor
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Post by Victor on May 30, 2014 7:03:41 GMT
(Hello, this is same Victor) :3
We can chat any time you want!
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zakuro
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Post by zakuro on May 31, 2014 6:37:41 GMT
It's not weird at all to like "feminine" things while being male. I mean it might be "different", or rather not what the majority of society does, but heck, who cares? Be yourself! I know a lot of dudes who don't fit into the stereotypical guy box, for example I have a cishet friend who let's his girlfriend paint his nails and do his make up and he also has very long hair. If people give you crap for doing whatever just tell them hey, people like what they like. Who cares what society decides to label as "feminine" or "masculine", people are just going to be people and do what they like doing.
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Gatts
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Post by Gatts on May 31, 2014 6:56:24 GMT
Haha ya'll are great - and you're right.
I just think it's gonna be so difficult to explain though. Like yeah, "Surprise, Mom! I'm a guy but you -kind of- already knew that. No, that doesn't mean I'm throwing away my wardrobe or makeup."
I feel like for some reason she won't take me seriously but I dunno... Maybe it's not my problem, anyways.
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Post by Josh on May 31, 2014 20:33:05 GMT
Feminine trans men? That just so happens to be my MO. Hi! I'm Josh. I've always been a litle more on the softer side, but I'm also gay, so I can't speak for feminine het trans men, but I'm always up for a chat regardless.
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Victor
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Post by Victor on Jun 4, 2014 1:37:17 GMT
Yeah, I hear you on the coming out thing. Mine was a disaster. Nothing bad happened, but nothing good happened either. ("Trans man? Doesn't that mean you have a penis?") The situation makes sense though. Parents who don't instinctively or observationally understand your identity will be unlikely to understand or even care to understand your position. My mom literally told me "I don't want to know." So. While you might feel that this is a topic very close to your heart, and therefore you want your parents to be involved, they may not even understand what you're talking about. What I'm really trying to say is don't worry if they'll understand. They might not. But you are still you. Your identity is still valid, and so are your interests! Hope that made sense  |
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Gatts
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Post by Gatts on Jun 19, 2014 22:55:41 GMT
Haha yeah it makes sense. Thanks Victor.
Still kind of sucks though since I'm pre-op (though I have binders) and pre-T, so still doing feminine things and wearing makeup just makes me look 100% like a girl and I'm not confident enough to correct people, either.
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We're "blessed" with a unique perspective on gender that cis people can only ponder.
